BALINESE
CASTES & NAMES
There are four major groups: brahmana, satriya, wesya, and Sudra
(jaba). The brahmana are the priest caste; the satriya, the nobility,
and the wesya, the former vassals of the court. Everyone else is
Sudra (jaba).
Balinese names are coded to reveal both caste and birth order within
the family. Nothing, of course, is simple, especially when considering
inter-caste marriages, and there are always exceptions. However,
the following are clues to interpreting names:
Ida Bagus (male) and Ida Ayu (female) indicate brahmana caste. Gusti
is normally used by members of the wesya caste, whereas Gusti Agung,
Anak Agung, and Cokorda are reserved for the high-ranking members
of the satriya caste. Desak (female) and Dewa (male) are lower-ranking
satriya. I (normally male) and Ni (female) are usually used by the
Sudra (jaba).
Wayan, Made, Nyoman, and Ketut mean firstborn, second-born, third-born,
and fourth-born, respectively. Beginning with the fifth child in
the family, the cycle is repeated. Also used similarly to indicate
birth order are Putu, Kadek, Komang, and Ketut. Nengah may be used
by either the second or third-born child. The birth order names
are normally used only by the Sudra (jaba) caste, so don't call
a member of the satriya caste Wayan even if you happen to know that
he/she is the oldest in the family!
BALINESE
ETIQUETTE
In the areas
of Indonesia most frequented by Europeans, many are familiar with
the strange ways of Westerners. But it is best to be aware of how
certain aspects of your behavior will be viewed. You will not be
able to count on an Indonesian to set you straight when you commit
a faux pas. They are much too polite. They will stay silent or even
reply tidak apa apa (no problem) if you ask if you did something
wrong. So here are some points to keep in mind:
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The left
hand is considered unclean as it is used for cleaning oneself
in the bathroom. It is inappropriate to use the left hand to
eat or to give or receive anything with it. When you do accidentally
use your left hand then say "ma'af, tangan kiri" (please
excuse my left hand).
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The head
is considered the most sacred part of the body and, hence, the
feet the least sacred. Avoid touching people on the head. Go
for the elbow instead. Never step over food or expose the sole
of your foot toward anyone.
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As it
is impolite to keep one's head higher than others, it is appropriate
to acknowledge the presence of others by stooping (extending
the right arm, drooping the right shoulder, and leaning forward)
while passing closely by someone who is sitting.
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Pointing
with the index finger is impolite. Indonesians use their thumbs
(palm turned upward, fingers curled in) or open palms instead.
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Summoning
people by crooking the forefinger is impolite. Rather, wave
downward with a flat palm face down.
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Alcohol
is frowned upon in Islam, so take a look around you and consider
taking it easy.
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Hands
on hips is a sign of superiority or anger. W' Indonesians don't
blow their noses. Keep a handkerchief handy.
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Take off
your shoes when you enter someone's house. Often the host will
stop you, but you should go through the motions until he does.
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Wait for
a verbal offer before devouring food and drinks that have been
placed in front of you. Sip your drink and don't finish it in
one gulp. Never take the last morsels from a common plate.
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You will
often be invited to eat with the words makan, makan ("eat,
eat") if you pass somebody who is eating. This is not really
an invitation, but simply means "Excuse me as I eat."
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If someone
prepares a meal or drink for you it is most impolite to refuse.
Some things
from the west filter through to Indonesia more effectively than
others and stories of "free sek" (free sex) made a deep
and lasting impression in Indonesia. Expect this topic to appear
in lists of questions you will be asked in your cultural exchanges.
It is best to explain how things have changed since the 1960s and
how we now are stuck with "saf sek."
Bali may seem to have been placed here just for you personal enjoyment,
but it is not a zoo. Be aware of Balinese sensibilities. Remember
the Balinese are offended if the casual visitor does not dress appropriately
when entering a temple. A sash over shorts and a T-shirt or a very
brief top is not adequate. Have a sarong and sash handy for temple
visits and ceremonies, and wear long pants or a skirt and a decent
shirt with collar when leaving the beach areas.
Keeping Your Cool
At government offices like
immigration or police, talking loudly and forcefully doesn't make
things easier. Patience and politeness are virtues that will open
many doors in Indonesia.
Good manners and dress are also to your advantage.
BALINESES
TRAVELING WITH CHILDREN
Luckily for
those with children, the Balinese are very gentle and love to
have kids around. But you should bring essentials: sunhats, creams,
medicines, special foods, and a separate water container for babies
to be sure of always having sterile water. Disposable diapers
are available in big supermarkets. Nights can be cool sometimes,
so bring some warm clothing for your child. Milk, eggs, fruit
which you can peel and porridges are readily available in the
supermarkets here. Babysitters are available for a moderate charge
at any hotel.
An excellent general practitioner and family doctor is Dr. AA
Made Djelantik, Jl. Hayam Waruk 190 (Bunderan Renon 101), Denpasar
80235, Phone 238171. Consultations weekdays. General practitioner
and pediatrician Dr. Conny Pangkahila is at J1. Bypass Ngurah
Rai 25X in Sanur (next to Ritra Cargo). Home phone, Phone 288128;
pager Phone 234139 #302.
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