Only by making yourself dependent on help and advice from Indonesians can you start to understand them. Travelers realize that to experience the people is not to have bellboys fetch their tennis balls at the Amburrukmo Palace Hotel all morning long for 171 C. Tourists must first get it out of their heads that the man in front of tht:m is only an Indonesian and that 'he's so small and I'm so big' (the little-man-in-the-village syndrome). You've got to stay a month in a kampung before you can even get a glimpse of what it's like to be an Asian. One of the most valuable gifts you can be given as a westerner is a new way to structure your time. You learn not only that time is not money but that life is better than money. You learn how to wait and be patient.